Building Connection

Years ago, my husband got a Blackberry for work. I used to call it his “crackberry.” Until I got my own smartphone. Looking back, his phone use didn’t seem that bad. Couples have always complained that their partner doesn’t give them their full attention. In the past, work, kids, friends, and hobbies have been to […]

Avoiding conflict is killing your relationship. It’s making you feel lonely and misunderstood. It’s killing off your sex life, too. Few people enjoy fighting with their spouse. A good debate scratches an itch, but arguing is a different thing. It’s stressful and can deeply hurt your relationship. It’s natural that you disagree with your spouse. In

The Secret to Feeling Known by Your Partner We’ve all seen couples who sit in silence when eating at a restaurant. They don’t seem to have anything to say to each other anymore. Did they really say everything there is to say? If you are like me, you want more from your marriage. You want

When I get fired up, I am passionate. My enthusiasm can knock the other person over. I can talk about that topic for a LONG time without running out of steam. If I am excited (and not mad), it eventually occurs to me that I am hogging the conversation. When I am mad, it’s a

You searched long and hard for your spouse. Once you found them, you want the relationship to stay strong through whatever life throws at you. You believe that being together makes your lives better. You have a built in, guaranteed support system. You want your partner to know you so well that you don’t even