Picture this: You’re sitting together on the couch, watching TV together. Although you’re in the same room, having the same experience, your partner feels miles away. There’s a noticeable gap between you. It’s a physical and emotional distance that’s hard to ignore. You yearn for the days when you would curl up together. But the […]
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Years ago, my husband got a Blackberry for work. I used to call it his “crackberry.” Until I got my own smartphone. Looking back, his phone use didn’t seem that bad. Couples have always complained that their partner doesn’t give them their full attention. In the past, work, kids, friends, and hobbies have been to
Marriage in Jeopardy: 12 Signs Your Phone is to Blame (with Actionable Solutions) Read More »
I’ve been working with couples for a long time. I’ve heard many versions of the same stories. And some of the strangest and challenging situations that stretch my imagination. One of the things that amuses me is to make lists of things. You (and all other couples) know it’s important to spend quality time with
Reasons to Date Your Spouse (and excuses why you don’t) Read More »
“Who is this person in my house? It’s not the person who I married!” If you’ve been married for any length of time, you have thought this. You’ve looked around and wondered how you and your spouse became so disconnected. They feel like a comfortable sweatshirt and a complete stranger at the same time. One
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Avoiding conflict is killing your relationship. It’s making you feel lonely and misunderstood. It’s killing off your sex life, too. Few people enjoy fighting with their spouse. A good debate scratches an itch, but arguing is a different thing. It’s stressful and can deeply hurt your relationship. It’s natural that you disagree with your spouse. In
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Remember how wonderful being “in love” felt? When was the last time you felt that kind of love with your husband, wife, or committed partner? Most couples lose this spark in the busyness and sameness of everyday life. There’s a well-known secret to reigniting the spark that drew you together. You’ll need to make your
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I was so glad that no one could hear us! We were yelling at one another in the car on the ride home. Somewhere during our date, we started up an old argument. It seemed to come out of nowhere. Dinner was great. We enjoyed answering the weekly Conversation Questions. This was during our year-long weekly
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The Secret to Feeling Known by Your Partner We’ve all seen couples who sit in silence when eating at a restaurant. They don’t seem to have anything to say to each other anymore. Did they really say everything there is to say? If you are like me, you want more from your marriage. You want
Nothing to Talk About? Starting Conversations in Your Marriage Read More »
You love your spouse, but they won’t talk about the problems in your relationship. You know that your lives could be better if you could just fix a few things. But, every time you bring something up, they refuse to engage with you. Instead of talking, they: When this happens, you feel alone and angry.
My Partner Refuses To Talk About Problems (How to Fix This) Read More »
By now, you have heard about the benefits of appreciation. If you haven’t yet, read Gratitude and Appreciation to Soften Relationship Irritation parts 1 & 2 or Google “benefits of appreciation.” Appreciation is a powerful way to 1) shift your mood, 2) strengthen your relationships, and 3) change your perspective. You have even tried to change your marriage using
The Most Powerful (but overlooked) Tool Couples Can Use Rekindle Their Love (Part 3) Read More »
